Soulshine

If you suffer from Codependency, you are most likely an ISFJ like I am, or an INFJ. I share attributes of both. This story from the website Introvert, Dear hits the nail on the head. Hello, 2020. New decade, new you — or something like that. Here’s the New Year’s resolution I believe will take each introverted Myers-Briggs personality type to the next level. (What’s your personality type? Take a  free personality assessment .) The New Year’s Resolution for Each Introverted Type ISTJ — I resolve to stop picking up other peoples’ slack. Known for their unwavering work ethic, ISTJs get things done, whether it’s on the job, at home, or behind the scenes on the PTA committee . Dutiful and committed, they may feel restless lounging around, or really, whenever there’s no clear goal in sight. Want to locate an ISTJ? Just listen for the sound of items swiftly being crossed off a to-do list. How do they do it? A Sensing personality , the ISTJ’s mother tongue is ...

“Christmas time is here, happiness and cheer.” Or is it “anxiety and fear”? Christmas holidays can be a wonderful or a horrible time for codependents. The key is this: How we’ll do you take care of yourself? At Christmas gatherings, do you allow yourself to be comfortable with being quiet, if you’re an introvert, or do you punish yourself for being quiet? Truth is that it’s ok to be quiet and just observe and enjoy the beauty around you— the Christmas decorations, etc. It’s also ok to enjoy the festive feeling others are displaying and allow yourself to feel festive, instead of anxious, just because it’s your nature to be quiet. Boundaries are the other key to a happy holiday. Don’t allow anyone to insult, belittle or invade your space in ways that make you uncomfortable. Sometimes people stand too close to me and I simply ask them to back away, telling them “You’re so close, your out of focus in my eyes!” They understand because I say it with a pleasant tone. If anyone star...