Soulshine

The quote above is from the 2019 film, Isn't It Romantic? Josh (Adam Devine) says these words directly to Natalie (Rebel Wilson) because he's been in love with her, but she's too self-alienated (or codependent) to see or even conceive that he could really be interested in her. They work together in the same architectural firm and Josh is always glancing Natalie's way, hoping she'll notice him. But she has a large picture window behind her desk. Outside the window is a billboard with a beautiful supermodel on it. And Natalie mistakenly believes that Josh is staring at the billboard model. It would never cross her mind that Josh could be glancing at her. Why? Because when she was a little girl, Natalie's mother told her that girls like them never find fairy tale romance, like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman , because they aren't pretty or thin enough. And even though little Natalie disagrees with her mother, her mother's belief has a lasting effect o

Most of us in Recovery know that hurting people (our parents) hurt other people (us, as children). And we know that our self-loathing and addictive issues began in childhood because our parents were hurting inside themselves. We also know that childhood mistreatment effects our adult behavioral patterns to this very day. According to the excerpt below, from The Power of Positivity , there are at least seven behavioral patterns that exist in adults who didn't receive the proper love and positive affirmation they needed as children. Below are the seven behavioral patterns, directly quoted from The Power of Positivity : 1.  Lack of trust Developing a sense of trust on an individual level requires a steady external environment. During childhood, it is essential that the people around us be relatively stable. We must feel safe and feel some semblance of emotional giving from others. Without a stable and nurturing environment, the child may very well find it difficult to