All You Need Is Now

All you need is now because now is all you have. Now is the reality of this moment and every moment. If you're not in the moment, you're not living life. Your not seeing life, tasting it, breathing in its scents, or hearing it; nor are you touching life or allowing it to touch you.

Get out of your head. Stop thinking about what you're going to do next and focus on what you are doing or experiencing NOW. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and to feel life. Stop existing like a mannequin and start living by seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, touching and breathing in the NOW. It's all anyone needs to allow their soul to shine!

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