Get Over Being Ashamed


As a film buff, I’ve come to really love Mae West. She was someone who really knew how to own her personal power and no one—absolutely no one—could take it away from her.

In her 1935 film Goin’ to Town, West exclaims “Yeah, for a long time I was ashamed of the way I lived.” When questioned about whether she changed herself to please others she says “No, I got over being ashamed.”

Seems many of us could take a good lesson or two from Mae West in learning how to get over being ashamed of who we are. No one can shame us unless we allow them to do so. No one can make us feel worthless unless we believe deep down inside that we are worthless. And no one can make a doormat out of us unless we voluntarily lay down for them.

It’s time we all learned to get over being ashamed. We can start by realizing that we’re good enough just the way we are. Let’s focus on the inside instead of the outside: Affirm our own goodness. Let’s also care only about what we think of ourselves, and refuse to give a rat’s ass about what anyone else thinks of us. No one can take our value away from us. So let’s stop giving it away.

Rent a Mae West film today and learn to own your power from a true master!

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  1. E.S. KraayOctober 19, 2011 at 8:46 AM

    Excellent offering by you and Mae. Goes hand in hand with Gary Cooper's response to Toohey that you've brought up from the film 'The Fountainhead:' "I don't think about you anymore." We watched 'The Fountainhead' just last weekend. It is an extraordinary film about a man who stands solidly on his beliefs regardless of external pressures while keeping his integrity intact.

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