Break The "No One Can Honestly Love Me" Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

 

There are people who honestly love us for who we are; for the beauty they see in our souls. That's the truth. They have no secret agenda. The only thing they may want from us is to be loved and respected for the beauty of their own souls, too.

When we won't allow these people to honestly love us, eventually they walk away. Not because they've stopped loving us. They do love us. But because they can no longer face the pain of our rejection of ourselves, of them and of their freely given love for us. They have finally realized that they can't get through the stone wall we've erected around ourselves. And that it's impossible to knock down that wall. No amount of their love can do it. Only we can knock down that wall by finally accepting the fact that we are indeed loveable and worthy of their love.

So with heavy hearts, people walk away from us. They are exhausted and they are hurting inside themselves. They feel disrespected and rejected because we were always suspicious as to why they would love us, as to why they would care or want to do anything for us; and because we never honored the ways in which they tried to love us. In rejecting their love, we rejected them, most likely through our own fear of abandonment, which has now become a self-fulfilling prophecy--again. 

And now that they have left, we can blame them, just like we blamed everyone who walked away before them: "See, they never really loved me," we tell ourselves one more time. When will we ever face the truth? It was never about them. They were honest and sincere. It was all about us and our inability to love ourselves and allow ourselves to be loved by them. Think about it.