The Center of Your Heart is the Doorway to Your Soul-- and to Lasting Happiness






In the height of my codependency, I was constantly searching for the arms of someone who could rescue me from loneliness, from lovelessness, from despair. It was habitual for me to run from heart, to heart, to heart; expecting that I was going to finally find the RIGHT one to save me.

It never happened. I can't begin to count the number of hearts and arms I ran to, but I can tell you this: Prior to recovery, it never occurred to me that there was only one right heart to run to, and that right heart was my very own.

Recovery has taught me that I can only meet my true self and my true Higher Power within my own heart. The heart is the doorway to the soul. The soul is the divine dwelling space of our Higher Power. We can only meet our real selves and our real Higher Power when we cross over the threshold of that door that unites our hearts to our souls.




Roxette- From One Heart to Another

So, I learned the important lesson that I had to rescue me by going deep inside and discovering the actual person who had been inside of me since birth. I also learned that my Higher Power wasn't up in the clouds, or lurking about in a church on some type of invisible throne. Each human person is a true Temple of the Holy Spirit. We find God inside ourselves by experiencing God in our hearts and souls. It's impossible to truly know a Higher Power by someone else's definition or theology. 

You have to come to know your true self and true Higher Power from inside-out: Not by running from heart to heart, or from one set of arms to another, or by someone else's definition of who you are, or who God is. Once you go deep inside yourself, you find all of your answers to make your life valuable. You begin to feel lovable, worthwhile and valuable just by being the person that you were created to be-- the one that you were always too afraid to know; the only one who is going to make your life worth living.

Enter your soul through the center of your heart and begin to feel how blessed you are just being you. Then, run to the heart and arms of the one person who can compliment who you are-- not validate or save you.



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