Angel Eyes


There’s a reason why the term “Angel Eyes” has been popular for many years. When you look into the eyes of another person, you see through to their soul, to the angel inside of them. As you peer into the eyes of another, you touch their divine humanness. And in doing so, you allow them to touch your own soul as you open up your inner-angel to them.

It takes a great deal of honest, naked vulnerability to look someone deeply in their angel eyes. And it takes loads of courage to keep your eyes focused on theirs as they look you right back in your angel eyes. Sadly, many of us fail to have such courage or naked vulnerability. We’ve been taught to refrain from looking people in the eyes for fear that we will somehow make too much, or too deep of a connection. The supposed fear is that we will then owe the other something, but I think the real fear is that we will have to acknowledge their sacredness as a human being.

It’s easier to treat a person like they are a disposable object when we refuse to look them in their angel eyes. We don’t have to acknowledge that they have feelings. Instead, we can look the other way and walk right past them on the street as if they don’t even exist. Likewise, if we’re having relationship difficulties, we can phone, email or text someone with devastating news as a way of avoiding their emotional well-being. It’s much easier. We don’t have to face the sadness or tears in their angel eyes; nor do we have to take any responsibility for our part in the problem.  We can be dishonest—with them and ourselves-- as long as we don’t have to look them in their angel eyes. And in the process, we dehumanize ourselves in order to dehumanize them.

Personally, I’m tired of being icily dehumanized by others who are too afraid to acknowledge my angel eyes—and vice versa. I’m tired of feeling like I need to icily disrespect the existence of others simply because it’s society’s norm. It’s a sick norm that needs to change. Maybe then we won’t have people pepper-spraying each other on Black Friday in the future. Maybe then we’ll become more tolerant of each other’s differences. It’s pretty difficult to be a bigot, or to be hateful, when you’re looking deeply into the inner-sacredness of a person’s angel eyes—no matter how much you may disagree with them or their beliefs. And there’s one very good reason for this difficulty. When you make that deep connection with their inner-sacredness, you are actually making a much deeper connection: You are connecting with the Spirit of God. And there’s no way to connect with that Spirit and still harbor hate or animosity within yourself.

The Spirit of God will drive hate from your very being through the overwhelming power of sacred Love. And that Love is easily found within the angel eyes of everyone around you. Touch the soul, the sacredness of everyone around you today. Look into their angel eyes and allow them to look inside yours. The resulting Soulshine will keep you awash in Divine presence.

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  1. E.S. KraayNovember 30, 2011 at 3:02 PM

    My wife and I try to bike no fewer than 20 miles each day on the Tucson Urban Loop. Aside from the exercise, we've concluded that it is a great way to acknowledge the humanity of the other people we pass. We are committed to offering a greeting to everyone we pass. On a good day, 50% of the 25 to 75 people we pass will respond. Too many refuse to acknowledge our greeting and press on walking, jogging or biking in their own personal worlds. On Thanksgiving morning as I rode through the Loop, I offered everyone a "Happy Thanksgiving." While that loyal 50% responded with a nod, a 'hello' or whatever, all were caught at a loss with my greeting and not a one responded with "Happy Thanksgiving." In retrospect, that is not surprising, but as we move forward, I believe it is our obligation to greet each person we meet everyday with a salutation, and as you suggest, a deep look into their 'angel eyes.'

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