Head Drama = Head Trauma



It seems the average person spends more time living inside their head than they do living in the real world. This may be especially true for codependents. Many of us are great at taking nothing and making a huge drama out of it— all inside our heads.

We can be in traffic and decide that the driver behind us is following too close. In a split second our brains are creating a horrific scenario. We suddenly envision our car being hit from behind. Our car is smashed and we have whiplash, of course. To make matters worse, the driver who hit us has no insurance. As this sick little story develops through our twisted little thought patterns, we become more and more anxious and angry. And over what? Nothing. It’s all a farce inside our heads.

In reality nothing is really wrong. In fact, we suddenly look in our rear-view mirror and see that the driver we were so concerned about is no longer even behind us. Yet we’re upset because we created a head drama out of nothing more than a passing fear that ran through our minds.

It’s time we all got out of our heads and back into the real world. I know I’m tired of having my little head dramas becoming head and heart traumas for me. It’s just too easy to get caught up in creating the chaos of head drama. I’ve found myself creating work-related dramas, family-related dramas, friend-related dramas, etc. They’re like a mental witch’s brew that I concoct to make myself miserable— without even realizing what I am doing most of the time.

I’m sick of feeling miserable over non-realities; over these head dramas that have become head traumas. And so I’m working at catching myself in the process of creating these head dramas and thus pulling the plug on them as soon as possible. I don’t need them and I don’t want them. There’s no benefit to them, aside from the fact that they often make me a victim.

It must be my old victim-mentality trying desperately to remain alive. I don’t play the victim anymore in reality, but I still do in my thinking (non-reality). This is going to stop, however, because I am choosing to actively stop it.

If you find yourself caught up in head dramas, take the time to catch yourself and ask “How does this benefit me?” It shouldn’t take you too long for you to realize that it doesn’t benefit you at all. Instead it enslaves you to misery. So become aware of your head dramas and choose to nip them in the bud. Life becomes much rosier when you do.

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