Keep Looking Till You Find the Self You Left Behind Long Ago


“I have run, I have crawled, I have scaled these city walls, these city walls…
But I still haven't found what I'm looking for. But I still haven't found
what I'm looking for.”
U2. I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For


Seems most of us are searching and failing to find. And I think that’s true because most of us don’t really know what we’re looking for in life. We think we’re searching to be thinner, or we’re searching for love or we’re searching for that awesome, fulfilling career. But we’re never satisfied.

We can lose the 2 inches off our waste-lines, just like we wanted, but our longing doesn’t disappear. Sure initially we’re happier, but it doesn’t take long before we’ve nibbled our way back to being over-weight again. Why? Because we don’t know what we’re really looking for. Consciously, we think being thinner is it, but subconsciously, being thinner isn’t the true goal. If it were, we’d feel satisfied-- as if the search is over, as if we’ve made it—once we lost the two inches. And we’d keep it off.

Likewise, we can meet all sorts of wonderful men and women. We can have fun, excitement and love. But once we’ve met the man or woman who is supposed to be “The One,” we still feel anxious inside as if the search isn’t anywhere near being over. Why? Because finding the right man or woman isn’t really what we’re looking for on the deepest level of our being. What we’re really looking for—and needing-- is self-love. We consciously think that if we can find someone who’ll love us, we’ll be OK; we’ll be complete and the “search” will be over. But subconsciously, we know this isn’t true. No one can give us the love we are failing to give ourselves. And so no man can ever be right enough and no woman can qualify as being “the one” for us.

The same is true concerning our career situations. Do we really need to still be looking for what we think we haven’t found in terms of having a satisfying job? Or do we need to, instead, be searching to find ourselves? Is it really the current job that we aren’t satisfied with or is our dissatisfaction about us? If we keep switching jobs and we continually find that we aren’t fulfilled, our dissatisfaction probably isn’t about the job. It’s about us. And we aren’t going to be any happier, no matter how hard we job search, if we aren’t happy with the person who’s sitting behind our desk, our nameplate.

So if you’re still looking endlessly for that perfect figure, or that perfect mate or that perfect job, stop! You haven’t found what you’re looking for because you’re out of touch with what your soul is really crying-out to have: YOURSELF! Start looking inside, invite your Higher Power to help you, and you will begin to find.

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