Be Your Own Valentine Today

Valentine's Day. Make a proposal to yourself. Look in a mirror and say "Be My Valentine." 

Feel love for yourself. Accept the proposal. Be your own Valentine. 

Buy yourself a rose today. Smell it. Feel the softness of its petals, see the beauty of it's colors.

Take yourself out for a nice lunch or dinner. Cherish yourself today. YOU'RE WORTH IT. 

Be yourself. 

Love who you are. 

Make that CHOICE. 

Be the person who fills and fits your heart!

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