Live Your Dreams



“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.
Live the life you have imagined.”
Henry David Thoreau

Yesterday I was in Fern’s Garden, a little shop on Second Street in Long Beach, when I came across a small journal with this quote from Henry David Thoreau. Seems we’ve had life-coaches around for a long, long time!

I bought the journal because the quote resonated with me strongly. I feel very restless right now. I don’t really believe I’m living the life I have imagined for myself. In fact, I know I am not. Since I was a small child I’ve had one dream in my heart: to be loved by that certain special irreplaceable someone. That’s never happened, mostly because—as much as I have desperately wanted it—I’ve been too afraid to pursue it.

This is one of the great pitfalls of codependency. We don’t feel worthy to pursue the dreams in our hearts. For some of us, we don’t even know what dreams our hearts hold because we have been so busy diminishing ourselves in order to earn the attention and love of others—usually toxic others. And for the rest of us, well we are just too afraid to even think about pursuing the dreams that God has placed inside of us, even though we are aware of them. We fear rejection and failure, which we think will add up to further proof that we aren’t good enough.

Our lives will never be complete, will never have been worth living and will never have been filled with the fullness of everlasting joy, however, if we do not pursue the dreams, the life we have imagined for ourselves. It’s essential to at least try.

I believe when we try, when we take those first steps toward fulfilling our dreams, the entire Universe lends a helping hand. Everything begins to fall into place. Nothing can fall into place, though, until we make the choice to help ourselves. It’s our inherent dream and only we can begin to build it and make it into something more than what we have imagined.

Today, get in touch with the dreams that have been inside of you since you were a small child. God planted them inside of your soul. Once you are fully aware of them, decide to make the choice to live them. Ask God to help you subdue the fears that cripple you from moving toward your dreams. Then take those first steps toward making what you have imagined into reality and see how everything begins to fall into place. Become what you believe—and hopefully what you now believe about yourself is truly life-giving and best for you.

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