A Mantra for Affirming the True You

I accept myself as I AM
I am a unique reflection of the image of God
I am a perfectly imperfect likeness of God
I am intelligent
I am delightful
I am creative
I am attractive
I am lovable exactly as I am
I love myself as I am:
wonderfully made
and I allow my Soul to Shine as I am.

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