Owning Our Lives and Living Happily Is Our Choice

 


 

My Prayer for Owning My Life

No one is meaner to me than I am

I choose to no longer be mean to me

I choose to stop blaming myself for the past

I refuse to run from my bad feelings about me

I will no longer project my insecurities on others

and pretend they are abusing me when they are not-- I am

I choose to stop hating myself

I choose to stop believing the lies about myself that I absorbed as a child


I choose this day to face all of my feelings

I choose to grow within by taking my power back from old feelings

I choose to accept that in the past I did the best that I could do

I will own my personal power by dismissing negative thoughts that enter my mind

I will no longer project any of my thoughts onto other people

I will consciously move out of my head and into the real world

I will find joy in the real world

I will begin to feel like I am fully alive

I will view others as people who are on my side and I will bless those who are not

I choose to fully accept myself just the way I am, just the way God created me

I choose to take better care of myself as I choose to love myself gradually


I choose to be the best thing that has ever happened to me

I choose to fully own my own personal power

I choose to set boundaries with people who are toxic for me

I choose to no longer allow others to judge me

I choose to stand on my own two feel, guided by my Higher Power

I choose to live the life God always intended me to live by wandering beyond my comfort zone

I choose to be free of fear and filled with optimism for my future

I choose to be me-- and to be grateful for the life God has given me.

I place myself in the hands of my Higher Power for the healing I cannot provide for myself.

Amen


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