Misery Is a Sister to Wisdom
“Misery is God’s way of telling you that this isn’t the path you should follow.” Rev. Candace Chellew-Hodge Personal misery has much to tell and teach us. Yet, even in recovery, we sometimes don’t want to listen to our misery. We are so accustomed to wallowing in it. Misery is how many of us define ourselves. We wouldn’t know how to behave without feeling miserable in some way. And so if things start changing too much for the better during recovery, we may find ourselves engaged in a game of self-sabotage. Before recovery we didn’t understand that we were trapped in bad patterns of behavior. All of our attempts to manipulate and control others backfired and increased our misery, but we were blind to the fact that control wasn’t the solution to our problems. So we kept loading our pistols with control tactics and we kept having these tactics blow-up in our faces. Our misery intensified and yet we still weren’t willing to listen to it and ask it what it was trying to tell us...