Put On Your Baby Face
“The basic truth about you is ‘I am loveable.’ Everybody’s basic truth is ‘I am loveable.” Robert Holden, Loveability For many codependents the very basic truth of “I am loveable” is extremely hard to swallow. Seems odd doesn’t it? We all want love, we all want to be loved and yet we don’t want to believe or to admit that we are indeed loveable. It’s self-sabotage beyond comprehension. So how do we end our denial about our personal Loveability and come to accept it? We return to our baby face. Babies are natural. They don’t do anything to be loveable. In fact they do a lot of things that we don’t find loveable—like spitting up, pooping on themselves and screaming at 3:00 AM—and yet we still think they are adorable. Why is that? Well, it has to do with how deep-down inside of ourselves we truly define loveable. Babies are loveable, despite their behavior, because deep-down inside of ourselves we define loveable in terms of being and not doing. Real love looks beyon...