Believe You Are Worthy of All That Is Good and Seek to Experience It
“You always seek to experience what you believe about yourself.” Howard Falco, I AM Codependent behavior is an excellent example of how people subconsciously seek to experience what they believe about themselves. It’s well understood that the source of codependency, or any addictive behavior, is poor self-love/self-esteem. People who believe they are worthless or less-than will always seek to experience and validate their worthlessness or their feelings of inadequacy. And as Howard Falco points out in I AM , they will seek to fulfill their beliefs about themselves in every facet of their lives; be it love, career, personal, etc. The vast majority of people suffering from codependency are starved for affection and intimacy. They don’t believe they’re worthy of love, however, and so they are willing to settle for whatever or whoever comes along. A codependent may be attracted to an attractive healthy person, but they will dismiss the possibility that this person cou...