Soulshine

“Every minute, every hour I'm gonna shower you with love and affection Look out, it's comin' in your direction and I'm I'm gonna make you love me Oh, yes I will, yes I will I'm gonna make you love me Oh, yes I will, yes I will.” I’m Gonna Make You Love Me   (written by Kenneth Gamble, Leon Huff & Jerry Ross) Performed by The Supremes & The Tempations I remember the days long ago when “I’m Gonna Make You Love Me” was not only my theme song, but my daily mantra. After all, there had to be some unsuspecting fool out there who I could shower with love and affection enough to make them love me. And, of course, I thought that in the process, as long as they were having to love me for all I did for them, they’d have to let me rearrange them and make them into who I really wanted them to be, too. So I tried and tried through caretaking and people-pleasing to make people love me, but it never worked. Every person I took emotionally h...

“It’s just my imagination running away with me.” The Temptations, Just My Imagination It’s the 4 th of July and that means fireworks. If you want some real fireworks in your relationships, however, just try being suspicious, controlling and distrustful of the people you believe you care most about in your life. Oh my God! Do I remember those days and all of the relationships I destroyed through by obsessive-compulsive thinking. In the past, I could never believe anyone was really interested in me, much less loved me, because I didn’t love myself and wasn’t interested in helping myself. So I’d enter a relationship and everything would be good at first. But the more I saw the person, the more insecure I’d become. I mean, how could this person possibly love icky old me? So I’d start obsessing about who they were looking longingly at if we were eating in a restaurant, or dancing in a club. When we were apart, they’d be on my mind constantly. What were they doing? I know. ...