Sometimes You Have to Have a Life Sucks Day
“Life sucks and then you die.” Anonymous It’s easy to get discouraged in recovery. Bad days are still bad. We take steps forward and then we regress back into old destructive patterns of behavior. We understand there is no such thing as positive instant gratification, and yet we are still desperate for instant intimacy. So we continually find ourselves looking for that person who can make us happy, despite all we’ve learned in recovery. We still look to every face-- on every street corner, in every restaurant, in every social gathering, in the supermarket and even in our doctor’s waiting room. We understand no one can rescue us, and yet we are still codependently seeking our savior. On those days when life truly sucks, I think it’s especially hard for those of us who lost their youth to codependency. It’s easy to look back and regret that we lost our twenties and thirties-- and all of the attainable happiness that comes with being young-- to a disease we didn’t even k...