You Are the Answer
“We’re often not attached to the thing itself but to the idea of that thing. We have a compulsive belief that we must acquire something outside of ourselves to make us complete.” Don Miguel Ruiz Jr, Living a Life of Awareness No one wastes more time looking outside themselves for personal completion than a codependent does. Before recovery, I was vigilantly looking endlessly for the right person to complete me. I had a big empty hole inside my chest. It wasn’t visible, but I felt the unbearable emptiness of it every day. It never went away. And I had no clue how to fill it up and make myself complete—aside from finding someone else to fill the hole and complete me. Time and again, I tried foolishly to fit various people inside my empty hole. But no one ever filled it up to my satisfaction. All of them were able to calm my codependent crazies for short periods of time, but no one ever brought me lasting peace and happiness. When these various people were failing ...