Codependent Lovesickness
“Many of us have come down with a case of lovesickness… In severe cases, lovesickness can lead to delusional behaviors (stalking, for example) or sexual obsession… Many psychoanalysts think that lovesickness is a form of regression, that in longing for intense closeness, we are like infants craving our mother’s embrace.” Stephen Grosz, The Examined Life Lovesickness and codependency go hand in hand. The primary focus of every codependent is to find love and fulfillment through another person. The active codependent sees all of life through one filter: “I NEED you, whoever you are, to fill me up with love and make me OK. You exist only to rescue me from all of my self-loathing and emotional pain. Come, save me NOW!” Seeing life through this filter means that the active codependent is constantly on the prowl, day after day, for that Prince or Princess who is their divinely appointed savior. The codependent is constantly on alert for fear that they might miss ou...