What Have You Done for Me Lately?
“Used to be a time when you would pamper me Used to brag about it all the time Your friends seem to think that you're so peachy keen But my friends say neglect is on your mind... Who’s right? What have you done for me lately? Ooh ooh ooh yeah What have you done for me lately? Ooh ooh ooh yeah.” Janet Jackson, What Have You Done for Me Lately? The addictive personality has more than one way of keeping a check list. There’s the Old Check List that keeps tracks of all of the reasons why someone else really isn’t good enough for us; and there’s the laundry list that details all of the ways in which someone has failed to return our love and attention, or rather, our caretaking. Let’s face it: Active codependents don’t do anything out of the pure goodness of their hearts. Everything we do comes with strings attached. We deceive ourselves into believing that we really care about someone and then we proceed to smother that person with total love and attention (and I...