Soulshine

There’s age-old wisdom in the idea that if you wish to build a good relationship with another person, you need to start by building a good relationship with yourself. This is a difficult concept for those of us who, through our codependency, believed that building a good relationship with another person was all about rescuing that person from themselves while at that same time said person rescued us from ourselves. Certainly the idea of our first building a good relationship with ourselves was never on the table. In fact, to the average codependent, the very thought of building a good relationship with themselves is repulsive. Instead we think things to ourselves like “Me? Build a good relationship with icky old me? YUK! NO WAY ! I need to find someone who can rescue me from myself and make me OK!” There’s a lot of faultiness to this thinking. First off, if we find ourselves so repulsive, why in the world would we assume that there could be someone out there in this world...