Are You a Prisoner of Your Own Expectations?
Have you ever gone to a party expecting to meet Mr. or Ms. Right? I have. We enter the party and we’re already anxious because we are bearing a very heavy and unreasonable expectation. It’s an expectation rife with other expectations: Since we’re going to meet HIM or HER we must be on our best behavior, meaning we must be charming and witty; we must look “just right;” and we can’t make any mistakes or else HE or SHE will reject us. WOW!!! What a tall order! No wonder we’re anxious and quickly getting more and more uncomfortable in our skin as we scope-out the party looking for HIM or HER. As we look around, we lock-in on someone. HE/SHE has to be the one! We may have the courage to approach this person or we may not. If we don’t have the courage, we may spend the whole night pining over this person one moment and then beating ourselves up the next for being too cowardly to approach HIM or HER. If HE/SHE leaves before we do, or even if we leave first, we then spend days rippin...