Forget the Supreme Makeover—Go Natural
“Gee Baa Baa, here I thought I was making you over… and you’ve made me over good as new.” Tim Osbourne , Lucky Star (1929) Codependency causes many of us to work extra hard at making other people over in our own image and likeness. We can develop a sometimes desperate need to make someone into the person that we want them to be. It’s this deep-seated need that pushes us to manipulate that someone in every way possible until they become what we want. The manipulation involved in making someone over can include lying, withholding information, flattery, criticism and coercion. It can also involve shopping or gift giving. For example, say we’ve targeted someone to be Mr. or Ms. Right, but we don’t quite like the way he/she dresses. So, in order to make them over as we would have them be, we voluntarily buy clothing for them—the clothing that we’d like to see them wearing. We don’t care what they want, or whether this clothing is a natural fit for them. It’s all about maki...