Am I Codependent?
Sometimes people come in to Codependents Anonymous meetings for the first time and their question is “Am I codependent or not?” I can relate to the question. I sat and wondered the same thing at the first CODA meeting I attended. My therapist had said “I think you’re suffering from a codependency” as he handed me a list of characteristics. Glancing at the list, I could sure relate to many of the characteristics, but I had never heard the term “codependency” before and was really clueless to what it meant. So how do we know if we are codependent or not? Well, codependency is all about dysfunctional relationships. So we start by examining our relationship with ourselves. Then we examine our patterns of behavior in our relationships with others. In accessing your relationship with yourself, ask yourself questions like these: Do I have a good relationship with myself? Do I truly love and value the person that I am? Do I feel really good in my skin? Do I know who I really am? ...