Who Will Rescue You?
“Who’ll be there when your heart hits the ground?” The Bible (band), Honey Be Good (1988) As recovering codependents, we have learned that there’s one essential person who has to be present for us whenever our hearts hit the ground. And that one essential person is “me.” It’s also essential that we have a strong Higher Power there to comfort and strengthen us. Prior to recovery, the average codependent is rarely present for themselves. That’s because most of us learned to abandon ourselves as children. Our focus never looked inward after our self-abandonment. Instead, we constantly looked outward expecting that there should be someone else to rescue us when we hit the ground. Sometimes we were able to find someone sympathetic to our plight, but they were never able to satisfy the aching need inside of us, much less rescue us. Why? Because the person we really needed to rescue us was the person we never looked to: Ourselves. As long as we remained in a state of self-aba...