Feel Like Rescuing Someone? Try Rescuing Yourself
Ever try to find happiness with a very special person—who has a victim mentality? If you have, then I can safely predict that you are still trying desperately to find that happiness, because you will never find it with someone who is stuck in the groove of playing the victim. Victim mentalities feed on people with caretaker/people-pleaser mentalities. People with victim mentalities chew-up and spit out their caretakers like they’re tobacco. Why? Because perpetual victims have no intentions of being anything but lifetime victims of life—forever and ever. You can’t rescue them. They don’t want to be rescued. They just want someone who’s going to listen to and baby them over their now ancient sob stories or their latest episode of self-created chaos. And they’ll run you through the ringer of their martyrdom until you can no longer stand it, or until they can no longer stand your attempts to rescue them into a healthy state of happiness. I feel sorry for people who think that they are g...