Accept Your Flaws and Rejoice Over What You Have to Learn from Them!



Everyone is flawed. It’s a simple fact of life. In some Eastern cultures flaws are seen as opportunities to make yourself more valuable, more beautiful. But that’s seldom the case in the Western world. We see flaws as things about ourselves to be ashamed of, to hide, and we use them against ourselves. We give so much personal power to our flaws that we live in constant fear that someone is going to discover them and expose us to the rest of the world.

Being fearful over flaws is a form of insanity. What is there to be fearful about when everyone on the face of this planet is faced with being flawed? Nothing. Fear is a misuse of our imagination.

Instead of worrying about flaws, I now choose to look at them as opportunities for personal growth, and in owning my flaws, I feel REAL. I don’t feel like a fraud anymore. In fact, I stand before large groups of people and publicly admit to my flaws in order to teach them to do the same.

Once we accept our flaws, we take away their negative power. No one can use them against us anymore— not even ourselves.

Accept your flaws, transform your thinking about them and you will find greater happiness!

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